Meeting that Special Individual

Love and sex are great, but they're not too much fun on your own.
To get the best out of sex you need a partner. And to really get the best, you need a loveing relationship. So how do you go about finding one? Can it be done single-mindedly, as if it were any other task? Or does it demand a special emotional state where you are ready and open for love? It may seem strange and selfish when started bluntly, but in oder to love someone else well, you probably need to love yourself, too.